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As a college professor, I chose what
committees I happily wanted to serve on. If the college dictated which
committees I must be on, I wouldn't have been happy. What about you? Do you
serve well if you have choices or have choices made for you? Our preschoolers
are no different. They too like to have control. Giving them the power to
choose encourages autonomy (independence) while minimizing conflict.
actually begin when babies become toddlers. Simply asking, "Do you want to
wear the blue shirt or the green shirt today?" as you hold up the items provides
a choice. A toddler can point which empowers them.
Limiting choices helps preschoolers select. Many
restaurant menus offer innumerable choices that sometimes overwhelm adults.
Instead of asking your preschoolers, "What do you want?" ask,
"Would you like chicken bites or a grilled cheese sandwich? Do you want
milk or juice?" If the preschoolers are verbal, have the children order
their own food.
Here are some more ways to give children
choices. Instead of asking, "Do you want to take a nap?" (Why do
parents ask this?) Inquire, "Do you want to nap with your teddy bear
blanket or your doggie blanket?" When it's cold outside, don't ask,
"Do you want to wear your jacket?" ask, "Do you want to put your
shoes on first or your jacket?" After preschoolers make decisions based on
two choices, gradually increase the number of choices. For example, "Do
you want raisins, a granola bar, or yogurt for snack?"
You'll discover that your preschoolers do
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