Dr. Marian C. Fritzemeier, Ed.D. ©
2013
Author, Speaker, Educator
"Helicopter parents can be identified by
their tendency to hover close to their child, ready to come to the rescue at
the first sign of difficulty or disappointment," explains Indiana
University psychologist, Chris Meno. 1 She counsels
"over-parented" college students on gaining independence.
Hovering Parents. "Helicopter parents can be
identified by their tendency to hover close to their child, ready to come to
the rescue at the first sign of difficulty or disappointment." 1
Here's a quiz
to help determine if you tend to allow your child to be responsible for her
actions or if you lean towards helicopter parenting.
Child or Teen? I've used the term "child," but you can also substitute the word child for "teen." I'm looking for 5 more questions to add to the "quiz." If you have a question or two to add, please post a comment. Thanks.
Child or Teen? I've used the term "child," but you can also substitute the word child for "teen." I'm looking for 5 more questions to add to the "quiz." If you have a question or two to add, please post a comment. Thanks.
Questions
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1. Do you wake up your child to get ready for
school?
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2. Do you continually remind your child it's time
to get up?
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3. Do you keep repeating, "We leave for _____
(school, practice, or church) in ____ minutes."?
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4. If your child is late, do you change your
schedule to accommodate your child's tardiness?
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5. Do you take responsibility for your child's
things, like packing her sports bag for practice or his backpack?
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6.
Do you
complete or adjust your child's homework and/or project until it meets your standards?
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7. Do you take your child's homework, music
instrument, and/or project to school if your child forgets it?
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8. Do you allow your child to stay home
"sick" because he has a project due that isn't done or a test she
didn't study for?
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9. Do you call or email your child's teacher over
grades or assignments?
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10. Do you make excuses for your child's
misbehavior, such as, "The referee made a bad call."?
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11. Do you run on the sports field immediately if
your child's hurt?
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12. Do you rush in to settle your child's disputes
to ensure it is settled fairly?
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13. When your child fails at something, do you
reward him for trying?
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14. Do you wait on your child by getting her snack
or something to drink?
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15. Do you make something different because your
child doesn't like what everyone else is eating?
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16. Do you expect your child not to do chores
since school is his "work"?
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17. Do you manage your child's schedule?
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18. Do you call or text your child many times a
day to check in?
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19. Is your child your best friend?
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20. Do you manage your child's money? Allowance?
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Answer
Key:
If
you typically answered "never or rarely," you tend to allow your
child to be responsible for his actions.
If you generally answered "sometimes," you frequently allow your child to be responsible for her actions, but sometimes you rescue your child.
If you answered "usually" to the majority of the questions, you typically rescue your child and take responsibility for him. This is referred to as "helicopter parenting."
Next Blog: 5 to 8 Year Olds and Peer Pressure
Source:
1.
"Helicopter parents" stir up
anxiety, depression, Indiana
University, IU Newsroom, newsinfo.iu.edu › Newsroom Home › Newsletter Home. Accessed
10/8/2013.
2. Image from: Stock.XCHNG www.sxc.hu/. helicopter-3-1032378-m. Accessed 4/17/2014.
2. Image from: Stock.XCHNG www.sxc.hu/. helicopter-3-1032378-m. Accessed 4/17/2014.
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