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As I read specific about how bullying is defined, I often thought of the squabbles I observe weekly between five year olds. When a peer doesn't do what their friend wants, I hear, "You're not going to be my friend anymore," or, "You're not invited to my birthday party." If they are really upset, they might cite both sentences together. So is this bullying?
2. It is carried out repeatedly and over time.
3. It occurs within an interpersonal relationship characterized by an imbalance of power." (1)
So are the squabbling five-year olds bullying? Their behavior is not always aggressive but they are saying these things to express frustration and it is most likely the meanest thing they know so say. The words are intentional, although very short lived. Later, they are once again friends and get re-invited to the party.
1. Hirsch, Lee & Lowen, Cynthia with Santorelli, Dina (Editors). Bully: An Action Plan for Teachers, Parents, and Communities to Combat the Bullying Crisis. [Companion to the Acclaimed Film Bully] New York: Weinstein Books, 2012, p. 232.
2. Image from: www.stockpholio.com At least I'm not a bully, Creative Commons, 4476645306_0.