tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-47825222669264961452024-03-13T14:09:19.999-07:00Fritzemeier's FootnotesDo you have questions about life? Being a mom? How about parenting? Then Fritzemeier's Footnotes is where you'll want to view answers. As a former child development professor with a doctorate in Educational Leadership, my education and work experiences support my expertise as an author, speaker and educator.Fritzemeiers Footnoteshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17366491733039190755noreply@blogger.comBlogger57125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4782522266926496145.post-21900473919317987452014-08-13T12:11:00.000-07:002014-08-13T12:11:08.485-07:00The Power of Childhood Friendships
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</em>Andrea<em> </em>Williams with Quotes from Dr. Marian Fritzemeier, Ed.D.</span></span></div>
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power of childhood friendships, for better or worse, and how to nurture
friend-making skills.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: black; font-family: "Arial","sans-serif"; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">Some of us can still
fondly remember long summer days and recess hours spent with our closest pals,
making mud pies, catching ladybugs and generally having lots of fun. As it
turns out, the effects of those adolescent friendships last well into
adulthood. “Being chosen [as a friend] makes a child or teen feel affirmed, and
it also expands their horizon beyond the narrow world of their nuclear family,”
says Dr. Jan Yager, Ph.D., author of <a href="http://www.amazon.com/When-Friendship-Hurts-Friends-Abandon/dp/0743211456" target="_blank" title=""><i><span style="color: #34a8dc; mso-bidi-font-size: 11.0pt; text-decoration: none; text-underline: none;">When Friendship Hurts</span></i></a>.
“The child or teen can become friends with someone of a different race,
religion, culture or socio-economic background since their siblings will most
likely be very similar to them. Friendships outside of siblings expand a child
or teen’s horizons and view of the world and other families besides their own.”<o:p></o:p></span><br />
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<span style="color: black; font-family: "Arial","sans-serif"; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">Conversely, not learning
to develop solid friendships can negatively affect a child’s future, as Yager
notes that kids who spend too much time alone can become lonely teens and
adults and even begin to develop signs of depression. Truly, we live in an
interconnected world, and whether it relates to effectively completing group
assignments in high school or college, or securing a job post-graduation and
being able to work collaboratively with colleagues, it’s important that we
encourage our children to develop strong, meaningful friendships. Here’s how:<o:p></o:p></span></div>
<b><span style="color: black; font-family: "Arial","sans-serif"; mso-bidi-font-size: 11.0pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">Teach kids how to be good friends.</span></b><span style="color: black; font-family: "Arial","sans-serif"; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";"><o:p></o:p></span><br />
<span style="color: black; font-family: "Arial","sans-serif"; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">Anyone who’s had a
relationship with an overly needy or inconsiderate person knows that being a
great friend to others has become a bit of a lost art. Teach your kids now how
to treat others well, and you won’t ever have to worry about them being alone
later. “Kids can learn to model great friendships when they are given the tools
for experiencing empathy,” says parenting expert Natalie Blais. “The power of
empathy has a deep and lasting impression on kids because they are not yet
clouded with disappointment like adults are. Kids are constantly filled with
wonder when it comes to emotion, and empathy is an experience kids must learn
to master.”<o:p></o:p></span><br />
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<span style="color: black; font-family: "Arial","sans-serif"; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";"><span style="background-color: yellow;">Dr. Marian Fritzemeier,
Ed.D,</span> an education and child development expert agrees, adding that it is up to
parents to model the kind of behavior that they expect their kids to develop.
“Role modeling is significant,” she says. “How parents interact with their
children and their children’s friends helps them learn positive friendship
skills. For example, if friends come over, the parent may suggest, ‘Emily,
maybe your friends would like a snack. I can help you.’ Over time, sharing a
snack becomes automatic.”<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<b><span style="color: black; font-family: "Arial","sans-serif"; mso-bidi-font-size: 11.0pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">Encourage kids to seek out children who need friends.</span></b><span style="color: black; font-family: "Arial","sans-serif"; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
<span style="color: black; font-family: "Arial","sans-serif"; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">Though cell phones have
replaced land lines, and kids may actually spend more time communicating with
each other via social media than face-to-face, little else has changed in the
world of childhood friendships. On any playground across the country, you’re
likely to find a group or clique, of popular, outgoing kids along with a
smattering of quiet, more introverted kids who hang solo.<o:p></o:p></span><br />
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<span style="color: black; font-family: "Arial","sans-serif"; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">“My son is going into
third grade in September, and we spent the entire year </span><span style="color: black; font-family: "MS Gothic"; mso-bidi-font-family: "MS Gothic";">
</span><span style="color: black; font-family: "Arial","sans-serif"; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">of second grade learning
how to find kids who need someone to be a friend to </span><span style="color: black; font-family: "MS Gothic"; mso-bidi-font-family: "MS Gothic";">
</span><span style="color: black; font-family: "Arial","sans-serif"; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">them,” says Blais. “At
the end of each day, I ask my son if he had the opportunity to be kind to
someone that day. I make sure I have him consistently thinking about and
looking for the chance to be kind to someone and reach out to him. Often,
parents ask their kids how the day was, but they rarely ask their kids how they
genuinely plugged into the situation around them and searched out the kids who
needed them most.”<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<b><span style="color: black; font-family: "Arial","sans-serif"; mso-bidi-font-size: 11.0pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">Get involved.</span></b><span style="color: black; font-family: "Arial","sans-serif"; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
<span style="color: black; font-family: "Arial","sans-serif"; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">If your child is
introverted, it’s important that you step in and help her begin to
interact with others. The key, though, is not to push her too far outside of
her comfort zone. “Years ago it was believed that children develop a
temperament by age 3, but most research shows that children are born with an
individual temperament,” <span style="background-color: yellow; color: black;">Fritzemeier</span> explains. “Some will be naturally outgoing
and noisy, while others may be quiet and reserved. Parents who push their
children to become someone they are not only increases the children’s stress
levels, but as children get older, she can begin to question if
her parents want them to be more like them or a sibling.”<o:p></o:p></span><br />
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<span style="color: black; font-family: "Arial","sans-serif"; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">Yager suggests parents
arrange playdates for their kids (even through the elementary years) and enroll
preschool-aged children in classes like Mommy and Me or Gymboree to help foster
new friendships. Additionally, adds <span style="background-color: yellow;">Fritzemeier</span>, bringing a toy or pet can
serve as an icebreaker and help draw other kids to your child. Also, when
choosing other children to arrange playdates with, it’s important to try to
find kids whose temperaments match that of your child, so she is not
overwhelmed by an outgoing or boisterous personality.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<b><span style="color: black; font-family: "Arial","sans-serif"; mso-bidi-font-size: 11.0pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">Intervene when necessary.</span></b><span style="color: black; font-family: "Arial","sans-serif"; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
<span style="color: black; font-family: "Arial","sans-serif"; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">Eventually, as your
child ages and becomes more adept at interacting with others, she is bound to
get involved in an unhealthy friendship. Parents, then, must toe the line between
allowing their kids to be proactive in choosing their own relationships while
also protecting them from significant hurt or danger. “Being a parent means
taking the time to get to know the kids your child is spending time with,” says
Dr. Tina Tessina, Ph.D., LMFT. You need to know their parents and hang out with
them. Driving [your children’s friends] places and listening to what they talk
about in the car while you’re driving is a great way to get a sense of who they
are. This is most easily done while your kids are small; once they’re teens,
you have a lot less control.”<o:p></o:p></span><br />
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<span style="color: black; font-family: "Arial","sans-serif"; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">If you do discover that
your child is hanging out with someone she shouldn’t, Tessina suggests deftly
steering her toward more positive influences without damaging your relationship
with your child. “It’s best not to say bad things about the friends you don’t
like; it will set you and your children against each other,” she explains.
“This is why it’s so important to pay attention early on: you want to intervene
before your child is too attached to someone. The best tactic is to find
something your child is interested in and allow her to get involved, and
distract your child from the undesirable friends. It also helps to find out
what your child is getting out of the friendship. Is there some kind of
acceptance for something you child feels bad about? Perhaps there’s something
you don’t understand.”<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: black; font-family: "Arial","sans-serif"; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">Ultimately, though, if
you’ve taken the time to show your child how to be a good friend and helped
her to develop solid friendships while she’s young, you shouldn’t
have much to worry about.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: black; font-family: "Arial","sans-serif"; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">Adds Tessina, “If you
set up a good parameter, you can let your child make choices, because there
won’t be any bad ones.”<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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Fritzemeiers Footnoteshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17366491733039190755noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4782522266926496145.post-46319871119632162572014-08-06T20:15:00.000-07:002014-08-06T20:17:23.375-07:00Back-to-School: Children & Sleep<div style="text-align: center;">
<span style="font-family: "Calibri","sans-serif"; font-size: 11pt; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">by Dr. Marian Fritzemeier, Ed.D. </span><em><span style="font-family: "Calibri","sans-serif"; font-size: 11pt; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-bidi-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-bidi-theme-font: minor-bidi; mso-fareast-font-family: Calibri; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">©2013</span></em><span style="font-family: "Calibri","sans-serif"; font-size: 11pt; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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and later bed times for children. But school is just around the corner. How can
parents help get their children's sleep back on schedule so they're not tired
when school starts and the alarm goes off way earlier than in the summer? </span></div>
<span style="font-family: Calibri;">About two weeks before school starts, calculate how much
earlier your children need to get up for school. For example, is your child is
sleeping in until 9:00 AM and will have to get up at 7:00 AM for school, that's
two hours. Figure out roughly how much earlier they need to get up each day so
that they're ready for the school alarm clock. If they got up just ten minutes
earlier every day, they'd be on track for the earlier wake-up time.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Calibri;">While you're figuring out their wake-up times, just how much
sleep does your child need? The American Academy of Sleep Medicine (2012) recommends
that school age children (kindergarteners to 8th graders) need 9 to 10 hours of
sleep. 9th and 10th graders need 9.25 hours while 11th and 12th graders need
8.5 hours. Your child needs more sleep if he/she has challenges getting up in
the morning. Obviously, if your child falls asleep during school, he/she needs
more sleep. Another reason your child may need more sleep if they are overly
active and/or acting out. </span></div>
<span style="font-family: Calibri;">Make bedtime consistent, relaxing routine. For younger
children, a bath and story time are positive ways to end the day. If your
children are sensitive to caffeine and/or sugar, eliminate these in the
evenings. Don't forget, chocolate contains caffeine. Keep electronics out of
the bedroom two hours before bedtime. Even the light from televisions or
electronic devices can suppress the production of melatonin, a hormone that
helps aides sleep. Following these suggestions and a healthy breakfast will
help your child be ready to learn when he/she returns to school this fall.</span><br />
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Fritzemeiers Footnoteshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17366491733039190755noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4782522266926496145.post-22278511948848024732014-07-31T20:42:00.000-07:002014-07-31T20:42:18.512-07:00Designer Jeans, Coupons and Budgets for Teens<div style="text-align: center;">
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do we always have to use a coupon to buy my clothes?" laments my
eleven-year-old daughter. "I want them today."</span></div>
<span style="font-family: Calibri;">"You know we have a clothing budget. We can get more
for our money if we wait until the item is on sale and we have a coupon,"
I try explaining once again.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Calibri;">"Everyone else's mom just buys their designer jeans
even if they're not on sale," she retorts trying for the mother guilt
button.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span></span></div>
<span style="font-family: Calibri;">But this conversation changed significantly one year later
when our seventh grader was given her very own clothing budget. "Mom, do
you have any coupons? I need some jeans," I proudly heard. She was
allotted a monthly amount but could use up to three months of budget money at a
time if necessary. Since our daughters were in year-round school, budget money
for three months seemed reasonable. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Calibri;">No, we didn't just give our adolescents money and let them
have a free for all. We talked about special events coming up, seasonal items
like coats and swimsuits, what still fits from last season, do they need new
undergarments, what about shoes, ways they can update their wardrobe
inexpensively, and yes, how buying items on sale and using coupons saves money.
Because they knew the cost of every item purchased, they took great care of
their clothes when they began doing their own laundry at age thirteen (see
previous blog, <i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;">Laundry or Writing?</i>). </span></div>
<span style="font-family: Calibri;">As they entered high school and needed dresses for special
events such as the winter formal and the prom, we paid for half the dress cost up
to a certain amount. Young men will need additional budget money for winter
formal sports coats and renting tuxedoes for the prom. When they wanted
additional clothing or designer clothing items that cost more, they used gift
money or worked for extra money. Other families we know paid up to a certain
amount for clothing items, such as a pair of jean or athletic shoes, and the
young person paid the difference. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Calibri;">I'm purposely not sharing how much money we gave them for
two reasons. They are young adults and inflation has occurred since they were
teenagers. Secondly, each family has an income; some may have a larger budget
for clothing, while others families will have smaller budgets. You may think
you can't afford to give your adolescents a clothing budget, but if you
honestly track how much you spend on their clothes, shoes, undergarments, etc.
it adds up quickly. The point isn't so much about how much you allot for their
budget, but teaching them the principles of money management. </span></div>
<span style="font-family: Calibri;">When you transition the budget responsibility to your young
adults, please resist the temptation to rescue them when they spend all their
clothing money and need something. They will not learn to plan ahead and use
their money wisely if you rescue them. Keep in mind that they will eventually
learn to live with the consequences if you allow them opportunities to learn.
And in no time, they'll start asking, "Do you have any coupons?" and
you will know you've done your job.</span><br />
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4/17/2014.</span></div>
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Fritzemeiers Footnoteshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17366491733039190755noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4782522266926496145.post-58179592276386468572014-06-25T10:02:00.000-07:002014-06-25T11:56:12.025-07:00Something Happened<br />
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<span style="font-family: Calibri;">by Dr. Marian
Fritzemeier, Ed.D. © 2014</span></div>
<div style="text-align: center;">
<span style="font-family: Calibri;">Author, Speaker,
Educator</span><br />
</div>
<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhIyxCQA6ebQ4Q-2fqTY7Oj93dQgsVpCPw4WYkHJQ4wAFda-vQxM6OsGmNxn8Q0Ry-H2AieEMZ4654F3pSzxxxHnYSQIKNC85TwA0-_zizr0s4rJgLFjR3R-D-vhyicDGC22PoQ-B9oC8g/s1600/%5Bwww.stockpholio.com%5D-4618335923_3+Tate+Modern+Tribute.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhIyxCQA6ebQ4Q-2fqTY7Oj93dQgsVpCPw4WYkHJQ4wAFda-vQxM6OsGmNxn8Q0Ry-H2AieEMZ4654F3pSzxxxHnYSQIKNC85TwA0-_zizr0s4rJgLFjR3R-D-vhyicDGC22PoQ-B9oC8g/s1600/%5Bwww.stockpholio.com%5D-4618335923_3+Tate+Modern+Tribute.jpg" height="200" width="150" /></a><span style="font-family: Calibri;">Something
happened tonight that hasn't happened in seven years.</span><br />
<br />
<span style="font-family: Calibri;">"Surprise,"
I chime in alongside friends gathered to celebrate our friend's 65th birthday. </span><br />
<br />
<span style="font-family: Calibri;"><span style="mso-tab-count: 1;">I</span> sit
comfortably in a tan wicker rocking chair on the back patio while I engage in
conversations. I catch up with some friends and reconnect with another I
haven't seen in years. The carrot cake is delicious. I savor every bite. I'm comfortable
updating friends about my life, my adult daughters, and of course, those three
precious grandchildren. </span><br />
<span style="font-family: Calibri;"></span><br />
<span style="font-family: Calibri;">But
it's what I don't do that's significant. I don't sit quiet as a mouse observing so I can conserve my energy. I don't leave the group because it's too noisy to
find solitude in a peaceful location. I don't excuse myself to clean up my usual spilt
drink as I don't spill my Diet Coke. </span><br />
<span style="font-family: Calibri;"></span><br />
<span style="font-family: Calibri;">I don't startle and jump because
someone drops a fork on the tile. </span><span style="font-family: Calibri;">I don't roam around searching for the
family cat so petting kitty provides a legitimate distraction. I don't hide
behind my camera when I can't understand the conversation. </span><br />
<span style="font-family: Calibri;"></span><br />
<span style="font-family: Calibri;">I don't wander
off to "help" since I can't construct a coherent thought or form a complete
sentence. </span><br />
<span style="font-family: Calibri;">I don't walk to my car to dig up something I "forgot" when
I can't track the cross talk of multiple conversations. I don't go through the
motions because I'm disconnected, staring off with a blank expression. </span><br />
<span style="font-family: Calibri;"><span style="mso-tab-count: 1;"> </span></span><br />
<span style="font-family: Calibri;">Tonight,
I do none of these things. The things I've managed to do for seven years to
compensate for my brain impairment in social settings. Indeed, something happened tonight. I initiated
conversations. I added to stories. I asked questions. I laughed. I enjoyed
myself fully...I didn't escape.</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Calibri;"></span><br />
<span style="font-family: Calibri;">Image from: <a href="http://www.stockpholio.com/">www.stockpholio.com</a> 4618335923_3 Tate Modern Tribute.</span>Fritzemeiers Footnoteshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17366491733039190755noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4782522266926496145.post-11290752294750163062014-06-17T21:00:00.000-07:002014-06-18T19:44:57.297-07:00Dancing Dog<div style="text-align: center;">
<span style="font-family: Calibri;">by Dr. Marian
Fritzemeier, Ed.D. <span style="font-family: "Calibri","sans-serif"; font-size: 11pt; line-height: 115%; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-bidi-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-bidi-theme-font: minor-bidi; mso-fareast-font-family: Calibri; mso-fareast-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">©
2014</span></span></div>
<div style="text-align: center;">
<span style="font-family: Calibri;">Author, Speaker,
Educator</span></div>
<br />
<table cellpadding="0" cellspacing="0" class="tr-caption-container" style="float: right;"><tbody>
<tr><td style="text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjfegl8rZfetqPlopsEKun-b2of31TIsHRiHsRsiXE19CI0BIEMhpY5Hq26VRdYaTA1pHzfgN6g47jSWUbSEIvHtBiBoWmje3-pxkifIunOS397ZdE9YrGTukXPyOLuk8VudKh-mNw-5ec/s1600/dancing+dpg.JPG" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjfegl8rZfetqPlopsEKun-b2of31TIsHRiHsRsiXE19CI0BIEMhpY5Hq26VRdYaTA1pHzfgN6g47jSWUbSEIvHtBiBoWmje3-pxkifIunOS397ZdE9YrGTukXPyOLuk8VudKh-mNw-5ec/s1600/dancing+dpg.JPG" height="320" width="240" /></a></td></tr>
<tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;"><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Dancing Dog in Front Pack</span></td></tr>
</tbody></table>
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<span style="font-family: Calibri;">It is 108°. The A/C is still not working. It's really too
hot to do much of anything. I can't get much done sitting in front of the fan, so
I sweat through the day doing what I can. I certainly can't ride my bike in
this heat. </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Calibri;">I'm going to ride in the morning. <i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;">But that's my prime writing time,</i> I argue with myself. But if I
don't, I won't be primed to ride 40 miles at the Clear Lake Konocti Challenge
in October.</span></div>
<span style="font-family: Calibri;">I get up twenty minutes earlier. Throw on old clothes. Feed
the dog. Feed the fish. Drink my Boost. Get my water. All I need now are my
shoes and helmet. As I reach towards my bike shoes on the closet floor, I
notice Dancing Dog. She's so excited anticipating that I'll take her on my bike
ride, she pirouettes. Again. And again. And again.</span><br />
<br />
<span style="font-family: Calibri;">"Do you want to go on ride?" She pirouettes even
faster; then races down the hallway towards the closet that stores her front
pack. </span><br />
<br />
<span style="font-family: Calibri;">"Stop dancing so I can put you in your pack." Then
we're off for a morning ride. Dancing Dog takes it all in. She's observing
what's going on, smelling the fresh air, and holding her head boldly while the
wind blows on her face. She's simply taking in the moment.</span><br />
<br />
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 10pt;">
<span style="font-family: Calibri;">I'm still grumbling. <i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;">I'd
rather ride in the late afternoon.</i> <i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;">I'm
missing my writing time. </i>Then I restate the truth. <i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;">I'm delaying my writing time. I will write after my eight-mile ride. <o:p></o:p></i></span></div>
<span style="font-family: Calibri;">With the writing dilemma settled, I focus on my ride and am
in the moment, just like Dancing Dog. </span><br />
<br />
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<span style="font-family: Calibri;">"Dancing Dog, do you see the kitty?... Hi kitty
cat," I sing-song as if both animals will answer. I'm now aware of the
birds' songs in the quiet neighborhood. I observe a breeze, just enough to keep
me comfortable. </span></div>
<span style="font-family: Calibri;"><i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;">Ahh, this is why I
like bike riding. I'm in the fresh air enjoying God's nature and beauty.</i> Oh
yeah, and getting some exercise too.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Calibri;">Before I know it, we're heading home. Releasing Dancing Dog
from the front pack, she reluctantly jumps out. I view emails as I cool down.
Then I write. And Dancing Dog? She's lying next to me, living in the moment,
yet anticipating our next adventure.</span></div>
Fritzemeiers Footnoteshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17366491733039190755noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4782522266926496145.post-19518934318662975202014-06-09T10:38:00.002-07:002014-06-09T10:43:58.388-07:00Feeling Inadequate? Watch Children<div style="text-align: center;">
<span style="font-size: 12pt; line-height: 115%;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">by Dr. Marian Fritzemeier, Ed.<table align="center" cellpadding="0" cellspacing="0" class="tr-caption-container" style="float: right; margin-left: 1em; text-align: right;"><tbody>
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<tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;">Parker's First Attempt at Caber Toss</td></tr>
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D. ©2014<o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
<div style="text-align: center;">
<span style="font-size: 12pt; line-height: 115%;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">Author, Speaker, Educator</span></span></div>
<br />
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<span style="font-size: 12pt; line-height: 115%;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;"><span style="mso-tab-count: 1;"> </span>Do you ever feel inadequate? Some
days everything seems difficult. Simple things like opening a sealed bag or
putting on my necklace are challenging because my coordination is poor. <span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Other times I can't find the right word or
can't even express a sentence when my brain is off. <span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Yes, me, Chatty Cathy. I read a book that has
many thought provoking statements. <i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;">Hatch!
Brainstorming Secrets of a Theme Park Designer</i> by C. Mc Nair Wilson. He did
in fact work for Disney as an Imagineer. <span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span><o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
<span style="font-size: 12pt; line-height: 115%;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;"><span style="mso-tab-count: 1;"> </span>"If you feel in adequate, watch
children. They are highly unskilled at pretty much everything they try. But
they try everything. They don't listen to maturity's hot air about being responsible,
careful, or correct. Instead they fill their lives with hot dreams and imagination
and fly to the stars...They roll down grassy slopes, basking in the moon-glow
and starlight of endless possibilities." (p. 68)<o:p></o:p></span></span><br />
<br />
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<span style="font-size: 12pt; line-height: 115%;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;"><span style="mso-tab-count: 1;"> </span>What a great description of
childhood. It is one reason I love being around them. After I was unable to
work at Merced College, I missed watching children every day as they came and
went from the Child Development Center. So I began volunteering in my grandson Parker's
preschool class a year and a half ago. What a delight to be with him and his
friends. They are constantly trying something new.<o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
<span style="font-size: 12pt; line-height: 115%;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;"><span style="mso-tab-count: 1;"> </span>On Saturday my husband participated
as an athlete in the Modesto Highland Games. One event is the caber. My
daughter calls it, "Man in skirt with telephone pole." Six to twelve
year olds could sign up to learn. Parker is not quite six, so they let him
"practice" two times after the older kids were done. <o:p></o:p></span></span><br />
<br />
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<span style="font-size: 12pt; line-height: 115%;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;"><span style="mso-tab-count: 1;"> </span>He'd never turned a caber before. He
may have seen it on a video. His Papa hadn't yet done that event. But he wanted
to try. And try he did. He was able to turn it on the first toss. He was so
proud of himself. I was proud of him too. Not so much that he turned it, but
because he was willing to try even in front of a large group.<o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
<span style="font-size: 12pt; line-height: 115%;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;"><span style="mso-tab-count: 1;"> </span>If they offered adults to try and
turn the caber, I'm guessing there would be few volunteers. Why? McNair summaries
the answer best, "...we do not live our dreams because we're too busy living
out our fears." (p. 66) Parker was not even remotely afraid. He didn't
wonder what others would think. He didn't hold back in case he couldn't do it.
He didn't doubt himself. He just went for it. What's the "caber" in
your life you'd like to try? Maybe you can try it today. <o:p></o:p></span></span><br />
<span style="font-size: 12pt; line-height: 115%;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;"></span></span><br />
<span style="font-size: 12pt; line-height: 115%;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">(Village
Books, 2012)<o:p></o:p></span></span>Fritzemeiers Footnoteshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17366491733039190755noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4782522266926496145.post-404749711858152372014-05-27T20:53:00.000-07:002014-05-27T20:53:44.629-07:00Ideas for, "There's nothing to do."<div style="text-align: center;">
<span style="font-family: Calibri;">by Dr. Marian
Fritzemeier, Ed.D. ©20</span><span style="font-family: Calibri;">14</span></div>
<div style="text-align: center;">
<span style="font-family: Calibri;">Author, Speaker,
Educator</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Calibri;"><span style="mso-tab-count: 1;"> </span>Summer's beginning. It won't be
long until your kids' whine, "There's </span></div>
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<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiaQldiXE3ySworUYwAYTHYwxy0Hy2f8S17KqgkrRgl1Nl3551Jcw7LDmisbwiR8eANRs7eQgYoi3uHMB9X0B6BmGVdPmgzV7tb45RB-RszViQoOfYVT1xHtfnKTN6ypWev4HVS530VHII/s1600/sunflower+1442107_43185038+Greeber.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiaQldiXE3ySworUYwAYTHYwxy0Hy2f8S17KqgkrRgl1Nl3551Jcw7LDmisbwiR8eANRs7eQgYoi3uHMB9X0B6BmGVdPmgzV7tb45RB-RszViQoOfYVT1xHtfnKTN6ypWev4HVS530VHII/s1600/sunflower+1442107_43185038+Greeber.jpg" height="200" width="129" /></a><span style="font-family: Calibri;">nothing to do." </span></div>
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</div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 10pt; text-align: left;">
<span style="font-family: Calibri;"><span style="mso-tab-count: 1;"> </span>But
don't sweat it; here are ten summer fun activities that will keep </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Calibri;">your children
occupied.</span></div>
<br />
<div class="MsoListParagraphCxSpFirst" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt 0.5in; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; text-indent: -0.25in;">
<!--[if !supportLists]--><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: Calibri; mso-bidi-theme-font: minor-latin;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">1.</span><span style="font-size-adjust: none; font-stretch: normal; font: 7pt/normal "Times New Roman";"> </span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span style="font-family: Calibri;">Pitch a tent in the backyard and camp with
Smokey the Bear</span></div>
<br />
<div class="MsoListParagraphCxSpMiddle" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt 0.5in; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; text-indent: -0.25in;">
<!--[if !supportLists]--><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: Calibri; mso-bidi-theme-font: minor-latin;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">2.</span><span style="font-size-adjust: none; font-stretch: normal; font: 7pt/normal "Times New Roman";"> </span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span style="font-family: Calibri;">Plant seeds and grow healthy vegetables to
harvest and cook. I just planted sunflowers for the birds to eat this fall.</span></div>
<br />
<div class="MsoListParagraphCxSpMiddle" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt 0.5in; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; text-indent: -0.25in;">
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</span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span style="font-family: Calibri;">Take old bread to the park and feed the birds.</span></div>
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<div class="MsoListParagraphCxSpMiddle" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt 0.5in; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; text-indent: -0.25in;">
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</span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span style="font-family: Calibri;">Sprinklers are a forgotten play activity with so
many yards watered automatically. With water shortages, turn off automatic
sprinklers. Parents can easily adapt water volume for small children or bigger
kids. </span></div>
<br />
<div class="MsoListParagraphCxSpMiddle" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt 0.5in; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; text-indent: -0.25in;">
<!--[if !supportLists]--><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: Calibri; mso-bidi-theme-font: minor-latin;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">5.</span><span style="font-size-adjust: none; font-stretch: normal; font: 7pt/normal "Times New Roman";"> </span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span style="font-family: Calibri;">Nature scavenger hunt. Identify items for
children to find. They can draw what they find, mark it off a list, or take
photos of each item.</span></div>
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their creativity and washes off easily.</span></div>
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and trucks provide lots of fun. Hose down children when done! This is one of my
grandson's favorite activities. I keep a dirt area in the yard just for mud
play. </span></div>
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</span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span style="font-family: Calibri;">Tricycle/Bicycle Derby. Decorate bikes. Bike
races by age groups. When we did this in our neighborhood, a boy in a wheel
chair participated too. <span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span></span></div>
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</span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span style="font-family: Calibri;">Pets on Parade. Gather the pets, dress them up,
and have a parade on your sidewalk. (Cats and dogs on leashes.)</span></div>
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</span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span style="font-family: Calibri;">Don't forget Flag Day on June 14th. Buy flags
from a dollar store. Children create instruments such as drums, shakers, and tambourines.
Then form a parade on your neighborhood sidewalks. </span></div>
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Fritzemeiers Footnoteshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17366491733039190755noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4782522266926496145.post-8159083437105372432014-05-13T21:35:00.000-07:002014-05-13T21:35:25.376-07:00100 Year Anniversary of Mother's Day and Attachment<div style="text-align: center;">
<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">by Dr. Marian Fritzemeier, Ed.D.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Did you know that 2014 is the 100th anniversary of mother's day?</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Two weeks ago, Lois M. Collins, from the <em>Deseret News National Edition,</em> interviewed me about attachment and mothers. The part of the article I'm quoted in is below. </span></div>
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Matt calls a "sentimentalization of mothers," who were featured
lovingly in songs and stories and heavily celebrated for their virtue. "It
began a new focus on mother love, warmth and tender ties."<o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span lang="EN" style="color: #464646; font-family: "Georgia","serif"; mso-ansi-language: EN; mso-bidi-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";"><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Mothers were noted for power to encourage
kids to grow into good, pious citizens. Focus tightened on mother-child
relationships. And Mother’s Day is a modern tale of love and attachment.<o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span lang="EN" style="color: #464646; font-family: "Georgia","serif"; mso-ansi-language: EN; mso-bidi-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";"><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Author, speaker and child development
specialist Marian Fritzemeier of Modesto, California, has two adult daughters
and three grandchildren who will likely honor her with cards and small gifts,
as well as a get-together and dinner. They'll juggle the timing of the actual
celebration so that her kids' spouses can also celebrate with their moms.<o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span lang="EN" style="color: #464646; font-family: "Georgia","serif"; mso-ansi-language: EN; mso-bidi-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";"><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">She believes that a child's very future
hinges on developing secure relationships and strong emotional bonds. Mother is
often among if not the first place those bonds form.<o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span lang="EN" style="color: #464646; font-family: "Georgia","serif"; mso-ansi-language: EN; mso-bidi-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";"><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">"Attachment is an emotional bond
between an infant and a caring adult. It means somebody is responding
consistently to the infant," Fritzemeier said. Cries attract someone to
figure out what's wrong, whether it's hunger, a need to be burped or stimulated
or changed, or just a familiar and loving voice. Moms are often that early
primary caregiver, she noted.<o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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foundation for life, not just in infancy, but adolescence and into
adulthood," she said.<o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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trinkets and pictures her children have made her. "You don't have to spend
a lot of money. A lot of families don't have it. Mother's Day can be breakfast
in bed, a meal together, perhaps a barbecue," she said. Pick flowers from
your yard or ask to pick your neighbor's.<o:p></o:p></span></span></span></div>
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Fritzemeiers Footnoteshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17366491733039190755noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4782522266926496145.post-52458271011565622602014-04-23T15:48:00.002-07:002014-04-23T15:49:40.549-07:00Pretend and Imaginative Play<br />
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down the toy aisle with Parker, my three-year-old grandson, he's drawn towards
playthings with push buttons. Buttons he hopes will make sounds and
"talk" to him. As a child development specialist, I'm not too
thrilled with his fascination because these toys don't leave much to the imagination.
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<span style="font-family: Calibri;">"Grams, this one doesn't make any noise," he
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<span style="font-family: Calibri;">"You're right Parker, it doesn't. You have to use your
imagination. You can pretend and make the stuffed dog say anything you
want." An interesting concept for a child living in a computer generated
world where imagination is virtually untapped. </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Calibri;"><b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;">Benefits.</b> Pretend
play helps children gain developmental benefits including creativity,
imagination, self-confidence, mastering new concepts, and communication skills.
So how can parents encourage pretend and imaginative play in a technological
world? Provide open-ended toys and materials, dramatic play items, games, and
interactions that facilitate children's play.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Calibri;"><b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;">Open-Ended Toys.</b> Begin
by choosing toys and materials that are "open-ended." This means toys
that offer different ways children can play with them. Examples of open-ended
play items are blocks, cardboard boxes, wooden train sets, dress-up clothes,
play dough, and art materials. Items children can build and create anything they
dream of are ideal for imagination, such as: old fashioned wooden blocks,
Duplos, Legos, Lincoln logs, Mega blocks, and magnetic blocks. One day children
make a zoo while another time they construct a ferry. </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Calibri;"><b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;">Dramatic Play.</b> Another
way parents can enhance children's imaginations is through dramatic play.
Building forts, houses, hospitals, and stores using common household items
provides infinite creativity and pretending. Sheets, blankets, pillows,
cardboard boxes, large appliance boxes, stools, chairs, and boards are great
materials. Children can also imitate real-life events to advance pretend play.
For example, if the dog goes to the vet, children can invent a pet hospital at
home. A dentist's office, doctor's office, hair salon, pet store, or auto shop
are other ideas. </span></div>
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Children also enjoy dress up clothes in adult sizes that you can discover at
used clothing stores, such as Good Will. Choose items that represent both
genders as well as clothes from different cultures. You'll enjoy watching your
children try "adult" roles as they express themselves in pretend
play. </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Calibri;"><b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;">Games.</b> Games
provide another way for expressing imagination. Once children learn rules to
traditional board games ask them to generate a new game with different rules.
You can also provide children with common game items and ask them to create a
new game. "What kind of game can we play with a Frisbee and a ball?"
You'll be amazed at how much fun they'll cultivate for your family</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Calibri;"><b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;">Benefits. </b>Finally,
talking to children while they play not only promotes children's vocabulary,
communication skills, and storytelling, but helps children's imaginations.
Suggestions like, "What else can you build?" or "How can you
make your store higher?" stretches children's problem solving abilities
and the beginnings of abstract thinking. Puppets are another great way to
facilitate pretend play and vocabulary. A chair with a towel over it becomes a
puppet stage. Encouraging your children to use their imaginations by providing
a wide variety of play items and interactions will build skills that will last
a lifetime.</span></div>
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Fritzemeiers Footnoteshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17366491733039190755noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4782522266926496145.post-3642417648082595082014-04-21T09:23:00.004-07:002014-04-21T09:23:37.994-07:00Here's What's Happening<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">I'm back from the Mount Hermon Christian Writers Conference. I learned a lot about the industry changes. It seems harder than ever to find an agent or get a book published. They are looking for writers who already have thousands of followers. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">I'm busy replacing all the images on my blog that I thought I could use to ones that are for common use. Blogging Bistro is beginning the work on my logo for <em>From Diapers to Diamonds</em>, for my new web page. My blog will be contained within my web page. Stay tuned for more updates.</span>Fritzemeiers Footnoteshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17366491733039190755noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4782522266926496145.post-8911939313735637872014-04-17T16:33:00.000-07:002014-04-23T10:56:57.008-07:00Six Year Old Boy Stabbed in the Neck with Pencil<div style="text-align: center;">
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Was it a stabbing or a poke with a pencil? Was it bullying or an accident? Why didn't the school call an ambulance or the police? Did the Turlock Unified District follow established protocol? The questions ruminating around California's Central Valley abound. But the one question that bothers me the most is, Why didn't the school intervene when the family previously reported bullying incidents?</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><b>Bully Workshop.</b> I'm teaching a workshop next month at the California Association for the Education of Young Children's annual state conference in Pasadena, California. The workshop, Bullying 101: Helping the Bully, the Bullied, and the Bystander; How Educators Can Help Break the Cycle of Violence, is based on a course I created for Merced College. This specific workshop is for adults working in kindergarten to third grade programs or schools.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><b>Stories Abound.</b> Any time I've had a conversation about my speaking engagement, someone shares a story. A story not unlike the "stabbing" story. "My (daughter, grandson, neighbor, friend, relative) has a child who was bullied. They reported it to the school over and over and nothing was done. The child changed schools."</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><b>More Columbines</b>? How many more Columbines will it take for all schools to wake-up? How many more kids will take their own lives because of bullying, also called bullycide, before society demands bullying stops? How many times will I hear stories where no one intervened? </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><b>The Movie: Bully...</b>I'll write more about bullying in the future and strategies that work. In the meantime, view the 2012 movie, Bully: It's Time to Take A Stand produced by The Weinstein Company and Where We Live Films, rated PG-13. I'd sure like to hear your thoughts on the film and bullying in schools.</span> </div>
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Fritzemeiers Footnoteshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17366491733039190755noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4782522266926496145.post-77178575337501879652014-04-16T18:49:00.000-07:002014-04-23T10:56:13.440-07:00What is bullying?<div style="text-align: center;">
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<span style="font-size: 12pt; line-height: 115%; mso-bidi-font-family: Calibri; mso-bidi-theme-font: minor-latin;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">How would you describe bullying? Has your child been bullied? Have you? Last week I taught a workshop at the California Association for the Education of Young Children (CAEYC) in Pasadena adults working with children in the primary grades. Over 50 educators actively participated in my workshop: <i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;"><span style="mso-bidi-font-weight: bold;">Bullying 101: Helping </span>the Bully, the Bullied, and the Bystander: How Educators Can Help Break the Cycle of Violence </i><o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: 12pt; line-height: 115%; mso-bidi-font-family: Calibri; mso-bidi-theme-font: minor-latin;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">The two months I spent preparing for this workshop were emotionally challenging. It was difficult to read books and research and view videos about what's happening on elementary campuses. </span></span><br />
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<span style="font-size: 12pt; line-height: 115%; mso-bidi-font-family: Calibri; mso-bidi-theme-font: minor-latin;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">As I read specific about how bullying is defined, I often thought of the squabbles I observe weekly between five year olds. When a peer doesn't do what their friend wants, I hear, "You're not going to be my friend anymore," or, "You're not invited to my birthday party." If they are really upset, they might cite both sentences together. So is this bullying?<o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: 12pt; line-height: 115%; mso-bidi-font-family: Calibri; mso-bidi-theme-font: minor-latin;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;"><strong>Bullying Defined.</strong> Although there are numerous bullying definitions, I chose this one because it contains multiple aspects. Three criteria distinguish bullying from other misbehaviors or isolated cases of aggression. <o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
<span style="font-size: 12pt; line-height: 115%; mso-bidi-font-family: Calibri; mso-bidi-theme-font: minor-latin;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;"><span style="font-size: 12pt; line-height: 115%; mso-bidi-font-family: Calibri; mso-bidi-theme-font: minor-latin;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">1.<span style="font-size-adjust: none; font-stretch: normal; font: 7pt/normal "Times New Roman";"> </span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span style="font-size: 12pt; line-height: 115%; mso-bidi-font-family: Calibri; mso-bidi-theme-font: minor-latin;">"It is aggressive behavior or intentional
harm doing.<o:p></o:p></span><br />
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</span><span style="font-size: 12pt; line-height: 115%; mso-bidi-font-family: Calibri; mso-bidi-theme-font: minor-latin;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">2.<span style="font-size-adjust: none; font-stretch: normal; font: 7pt/normal "Times New Roman";"> </span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span style="font-size: 12pt; line-height: 115%; mso-bidi-font-family: Calibri; mso-bidi-theme-font: minor-latin;">It is carried out repeatedly and over time.<o:p></o:p></span><br />
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</span><span style="font-family: "Calibri","sans-serif"; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 115%; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-bidi-font-family: Calibri; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-bidi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: Calibri; mso-fareast-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">3. It occurs within an interpersonal relationship
characterized by an imbalance of power." </span>(1)</span></span><br />
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<span style="font-size: 12pt; line-height: 115%; mso-bidi-font-family: Calibri; mso-bidi-theme-font: minor-latin;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;"><strong>So are the squabbling five-year olds bullying?</strong> Their behavior is not always aggressive but they are saying these things to express frustration and it is most likely the meanest thing they know so say. The words are intentional, although very short lived. Later, they are once again friends and get re-invited to the party. <span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span><o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: 12pt; line-height: 115%; mso-bidi-font-family: Calibri; mso-bidi-theme-font: minor-latin;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">Yes, it is carried out repeatedly over time, but by different children. It isn't only one or two children who make these threats against certain children. It seems to be a regular part of their interactions as they learn more appropriate social skills. Is it acceptable? To me, it is not. I'd like the teacher to intervene and explain how that hurts others' feelings and how to state their frustration in a more specific way. "I don't like it when you take my cars."<o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: 12pt; line-height: 115%; mso-bidi-font-family: Calibri; mso-bidi-theme-font: minor-latin;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">Finally, is there an imbalance in power? An imbalance of power could be by size, age, or abilities. Although the children are all different, I don't observe an imbalance of power. In this situation, I'd say that the children are not bullying, but learning how to express themselves; however, they need more adult guidance. What do you think? Are the children being bullies? <span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span><o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Calibri; line-height: 115%;"><o:p><span style="font-size: x-small;">1. <span style="font-family: "Calibri","sans-serif"; line-height: 115%; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-bidi-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-bidi-theme-font: minor-bidi; mso-fareast-font-family: Calibri; mso-fareast-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">Hirsch,
Lee & Lowen, Cynthia with Santorelli, Dina (Editors). <i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;">Bully: An Action Plan for Teachers, Parents, and Communities to
Combat the Bullying Crisis</i>. [Companion to the Acclaimed Film <i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;">Bully</i>] New York: Weinstein Books, 2012, p. 232.</span></span></o:p></span><br />
<span style="font-family: Calibri; font-size: x-small; line-height: 115%;"><o:p>2. Image from: <a href="http://www.stockpholio.com/">www.stockpholio.com</a> At least I'm not a bully, Creative Commons, 4476645306_0.</o:p></span></div>
Fritzemeiers Footnoteshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17366491733039190755noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4782522266926496145.post-50596464923487502752014-04-16T18:32:00.000-07:002014-04-23T10:55:14.050-07:00The Forgotten Garden<div style="text-align: center;">
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<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhCddlj6fG9wMuS5tDMZuxazc1niIXPjl6M7-EFjpWgKHyTjnRh_lgOfqL7BC0rjJ_VTMxIvaLYaKz-8aVbM2_Tuj9TsqmCQaToMvt37UpE_9ATWyFvmxMLpKJUtrDeWlXMVkAL9L4kts4/s1600/%5Bwww.stockpholio.com%5D-7574858320_4+on+its+way+out+aussiegall.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img alt="" border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhCddlj6fG9wMuS5tDMZuxazc1niIXPjl6M7-EFjpWgKHyTjnRh_lgOfqL7BC0rjJ_VTMxIvaLYaKz-8aVbM2_Tuj9TsqmCQaToMvt37UpE_9ATWyFvmxMLpKJUtrDeWlXMVkAL9L4kts4/s1600/%5Bwww.stockpholio.com%5D-7574858320_4+on+its+way+out+aussiegall.jpg" height="200" title="On it's way out" width="141" /></a><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">The tomato plants hanging over the grow
box creep onto the sidewalk fall chaotically onto my pathway look dead. It
appears that someone at Stanford Hospital previously cared for these plants.
There's evidence that tomato cages and stakes supported the plants growing tall
and abundant. Now the cages lean haphazardly with the plants' heaviness. The
plants are left to die during the cool fall days. </span></div>
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dead plants remind me of my life. Dealing with undiagnosed brain impairment for
the past five years, darkness clouds my former bubbly personality and positive
outlook on life. After a long search, the doctors from the neurology &
epilepsy department diagnosed me just last week. I'm one of the lucky ones. My
diagnosis only took five years, while most people aren't diagnosed for seven
years. My non-epileptic seizures don't change my disability status. I'm still unable
to fulfill my college professor responsibilities. I feel isolated and alone especially
since my life no longer centers on hundreds of students and colleagues. <b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;"><o:p></o:p></b></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Then
I notice that the plants are not quite dead. I discover two tiny, green
tomatoes. I touch them and wonder how they are surviving amidst this tangled
and forgotten garden. My eyes burn and overflow with tears. How will I survive
another dark day?</span><br />
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the garden is the only place where I'm allowed some fresh air during my
hospitalization, I'm compelled to visit the garden every day to check on the
tomatoes. Breathing in the crisp air while observing God's beauty, gives my
heart a lift. The two small tomatoes are still growing amongst the neglected
plants. If these two tiny tomatoes can thrive in this forgotten garden, maybe I
can get better too.</span></div>
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Today
as I approach the plants, they look worse than when I discovered them ten days
ago. I hope my adopted tomatoes are still growing. But they're not. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">"They're
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">I'm so excited I search through other vines parting their branches. I
discover six tiny tomato buds on the first vine. On another I observe a dozen buds
just forming in a row. Hundreds of tomato buds hang on the unkept plants. </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">What
appears dead is still growing but unseen by those who pass by. I can't always
see the buds God is growing in my life. Yet in His time, I see glimpses of
"red" just like my two adopted red tomatoes. There's life amongst
this forgotten garden. On this quiet nippy fall morning, I remember, God hasn't
forgotten me either.</span></div>
<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">This was originally posted, but it currently isn't on my blog site. This was written while I was at Stanford Hospital in October 2012.</span> <br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Image from </span><a href="http://www.stockpholio.com/"><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">www.stockpholio.com</span></a><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"> On it's way out. 7574858320_4.</span> Fritzemeiers Footnoteshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17366491733039190755noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4782522266926496145.post-54936935092684465272014-04-01T14:10:00.000-07:002014-04-23T10:54:31.672-07:00Let's Make a Deal<div style="text-align: center;">
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Fritzemeier, Ed.D. ©2014<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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aren't any choices, like work requirements. Children need to learn that they
don't always have a choice. Sometimes decisions are made by parents or other
adults. </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Calibri","sans-serif"; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 200%; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">For example, parents are responsible for their children's safety. Dr.
Sue Grossman, Assistant Professor at Eastern Michigan reminds parents that
children can't play with everything, like the stove or burner controls when
helping make cookies. (1) <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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Secondary Decisions<o:p></o:p></span></b></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Calibri","sans-serif"; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 200%; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">Sometimes they can't do something because of
time constraints, like when parents need to drop the children off at pre-school
and get to work. Parents make the primary decision, it's time to get ready, but
then children can make subsequent, secondary choices, like what to wear or
whether they want to pour in flour or chocolate chips for the cookies. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;"><span style="font-family: "Calibri","sans-serif"; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 200%; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">Accepting No<o:p></o:p></span></b></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Calibri","sans-serif"; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 200%; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">Dr. Grossman adds, "When children know
that they will be given sufficient opportunities to choose for themselves, they
are more willing to accept those important 'no choice' decisions adults must
make for them." (1)<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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Encouraging Autonomy and Learnin</span></i><i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;"><span style="mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">g
While Minimizing Conflicts, </span></i><span style="mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">Sue Grossman, Ph.D., Early Childhood
News, 2007.<em> </em></span><cite><span style="mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">www.<b>earlychildhoodnews</b>.com/<b>earlychildhood</b>/article_view.aspx?...607.
Accessed 3/25/2014. </span></cite></span></span><br />
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Fritzemeiers Footnoteshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17366491733039190755noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4782522266926496145.post-15443918617366940362014-03-29T14:04:00.000-07:002014-04-23T10:53:16.542-07:00Preschoolers and Choices<div style="text-align: center;">
<span style="font-family: "Calibri","sans-serif"; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 200%; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">Dr. Marian
Fritzemeier, Ed.D. ©2014<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Calibri","sans-serif"; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 200%; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">Author,
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<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhg13_EQA34iVkbdnnfVH1m7anYUK71RGhbAubz2_DA_sdTePoonIlBLUixhrXY24VsUHxVNsjNmLsLrUVn1WT3u7PG9SYwOcT9T3Vf2oWv2DPAY_7VOSDD4T0Wdn0s6nPMX2e1sYMWuGc/s1600/%5Bwww.stockpholio.com%5D-8413684208_4+Rex+Boggs+I+Luv+Pencils.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img alt="" border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhg13_EQA34iVkbdnnfVH1m7anYUK71RGhbAubz2_DA_sdTePoonIlBLUixhrXY24VsUHxVNsjNmLsLrUVn1WT3u7PG9SYwOcT9T3Vf2oWv2DPAY_7VOSDD4T0Wdn0s6nPMX2e1sYMWuGc/s1600/%5Bwww.stockpholio.com%5D-8413684208_4+Rex+Boggs+I+Luv+Pencils.jpg" height="136" title="I Luv Pencils by Rex Boggs" width="200" /></a><span style="font-family: "Calibri","sans-serif"; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 200%; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">As a college professor, I chose what
committees I happily wanted to serve on. If the college dictated which
committees I must be on, I wouldn't have been happy. What about you? Do you
serve well if you have choices or have choices made for you? Our preschoolers
are no different. They too like to have control. Giving them the power to
choose encourages autonomy (independence) while minimizing conflict. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;"><span style="font-family: "Calibri","sans-serif"; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 200%; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">Choices Can
Begin Early<o:p></o:p></span></b></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Calibri","sans-serif"; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 200%; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">Choices can
actually begin when babies become toddlers. Simply asking, "Do you want to
wear the blue shirt or the green shirt today?</span><span style="font-family: "Calibri","sans-serif"; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 200%; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">" as you hold up the items provides
a choice. A toddler can point which empowers them. </span></div>
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<b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;"><span style="font-family: "Calibri","sans-serif"; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 200%; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">This or
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<span style="font-family: "Calibri","sans-serif"; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 200%; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">Limiting choices helps preschoolers select. Many
restaurant menus offer innumerable choices that sometimes overwhelm adults.
Instead of asking your preschoolers, "What do you want?" ask,
"Would you like chicken bites or a grilled cheese sandwich? Do you want
milk or juice?" If the preschoolers are verbal, have the children order
their own food.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;"><span style="font-family: "Calibri","sans-serif"; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 200%; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">More Choices
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<span style="font-family: "Calibri","sans-serif"; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 200%; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">Here are some more ways to give children
choices. Instead of asking, "Do you want to take a nap?" (Why do
parents ask this?) Inquire, "Do you want to nap with your teddy bear
blanket or your doggie blanket?" When it's cold outside, don't ask,
"Do you want to wear your jacket?" ask, "Do you want to put your
shoes on first or your jacket?" After preschoolers make decisions based on
two choices, gradually increase the number of choices. For example, "Do
you want raisins, a granola bar, or yogurt for snack?" <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Calibri","sans-serif"; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 200%; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;"><o:p> </o:p></span><span style="font-family: "Calibri","sans-serif"; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 200%; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">You'll discover that your preschoolers do
better with choices just like we do.</span><br />
<span style="font-family: "Calibri","sans-serif"; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 200%; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">Image from: <span style="color: #1e0fbe;"><a href="http://www.stockpholio.com/">www.stockpholio.com</a> </span><span style="color: black;">I Luv Pencils by Rex Boggs, 8413684208_4</span></span></div>
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<!--[endif]--><span style="font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">Dr. Marian C. Fritzemeier, Ed.D. <span style="font-family: Calibri;">© 2013</span></span></div>
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<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEixlo0jBWwWBptNBvpOsaLfKnliUx8YdVn_Oo4yAvnE40sSxyv3FeWNcZWQLAo9OHt03RscJqVYOy33l9Fs52RZa3d-Nv5e2TTETh3WRZ1ikXquZ5XPxVTSrmXNmNqgX76ybhgLawmE-WM/s1600/divorce+book+cover.png" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEixlo0jBWwWBptNBvpOsaLfKnliUx8YdVn_Oo4yAvnE40sSxyv3FeWNcZWQLAo9OHt03RscJqVYOy33l9Fs52RZa3d-Nv5e2TTETh3WRZ1ikXquZ5XPxVTSrmXNmNqgX76ybhgLawmE-WM/s200/divorce+book+cover.png" height="200" width="128" /></a><span style="font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><span style="mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">Twenty five years ago, the general population
was told that children and teens adjust to divorce within five years after
their parent's divorce. The controversial, New York Times Bestselling book, </span><i><span style="mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">The Unexpected
Legacy of Divorce: The 25 Year Landmark Study</span></i><span style="mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-style: italic; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">,</span><span style="mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;"> came along in 2000 and tells a different
story. A story that is difficult to process and challenges American society's
beliefs about divorce. <o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><span style="mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">Wallerstein
studied children of divorce since 1971, when she began observing some 131
children of divorced families in affluent Marin County, California. </span><span style="mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">The original "children of divorce"
study was funded by the Zellerbach Family Fund. Subsequent studies were done
with the same children that ultimately led to The 25 Year Landmark Study. </span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><span style="mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">The
five-part, twenty-two chapter book presents a long-term perspective of children
of divorce after they reach adulthood. "...when children of divorce become
adults, they are badly frightened that their relationships will fail, just like
the most important relationship in their parents' lives failed," (p.
xiii).</span><span style="mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;"><o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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</span><span style="font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">College Students' Responses</span></strong></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">I used an article based on this book in my college Child
Growth & Development course for small group discussions. The topic stirs up
intense emotions alongside powerful opinions based on students' personal
experiences. The vast majority of students from divorced families agree with
the authors' long-lasting effects of divorce. </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Some interesting chapters
include: Growing Up Is Harder; The Wages of Violence; Our Failure to Intervene;
Undoing the Past; and Growing Up Lonely. Since divorce is so prevalent in our
society, this is a well researched and documented book on the effects of
divorce that should be read by anyone touched by divorce. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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Judith S. Wallerstein, Julia M. Lewis, & Sandra Blakeslee, New York:
Hyperion, 2000. Available from Amazon.com hardcover $17.56; paperback $11.62;
audio cassette $5.48; and Kindle $9.99.</span> </span><!--EndFragment--></div>
Fritzemeiers Footnoteshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17366491733039190755noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4782522266926496145.post-80629760334846330492014-03-14T21:09:00.000-07:002014-04-23T10:50:53.308-07:00Book Review: The Hurried Child: Growing up too fast too soon<div align="center" class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 10pt; text-align: center;">
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<span style="font-family: Calibri;"><strong>25th Anniversary Edition.</strong> Unfortunately, in his revised edition, the third edition, and now the 25th anniversary edition, the prefaces to his books sadly state that children are increasingly hurried. Interestingly, he includes all his previous prefaces in this edition. </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Calibri;"><strong>First Edition.</strong> The first edition focused on the way parents, schools, and the media hurry children. Concerns about sports and schooling that he considered developmentally inappropriate, as well as the effects of sex and violence on television were key components of his book.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Calibri;"><strong>Technology & Hurry.</strong> The latest edition adds information on the effects of technology on children with the pervasiveness of our hurried society and media. "In many ways, our new technologies have radically transformed childhood, and not always for the better," (p. viii). Other significant cultural changes include the focus on infant education, such as Baby Einstein and computer programs for infants and toddlers. Out of home child care for 12.5 million children under age five with an average of 36 hours per week is yet another cultural shift, as is the child as a consumer, and the technology empowered student. </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Calibri;"><strong>Two Parts.</strong> This ten chapter book is dived into two parts: Our Hurried Children and Hurried Children: Stressed Children. Part one addresses the dynamics of how parents, schools, media and technology hurry children. Two excellent chapters in part 2 include Growing Up Slowly and How Children React to Stress.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Calibri;"><strong>Hurrying Children.</strong> He's documented so many significant cultural changes around hurrying children, he's amended the closure from his first book to state, "In the end, a playful childhood is the most basic right of children," (p. xvii). This book is counter culture to our hurried society which is exactly why I like it. Let's give childhood back to our children. They deserve nothing less.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Calibri;">Book Information: <i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;">The Hurried Child: Growing up too fast too soon</i> by David Elkind, Ph.D., Da Capo Press, 2007, 25th anniversary edition. Available at amazon.com; paperback deluxe edition $12.42; Kindle $10.33.</span></div>
Fritzemeiers Footnoteshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17366491733039190755noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4782522266926496145.post-39334605452156788772014-03-06T07:30:00.000-08:002014-04-23T10:49:47.878-07:00To exercise or not to exercise?<div style="font-family: Calibri; text-align: center;">
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Has your doctor's suggested you exercise for health benefits? Did your friend suggest exercising as a way to lose weight? Do kids ask you if you're going to have a baby because of your tummy pouch? </div>
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Should I exercise today or not? It's a question you may ask yourself on a regular basis. <i>Nah, not today</i>, I tell myself. <i>It's raining. Maybe tomorrow...or if I'm lucky, maybe it will rain again. </i></div>
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This week I spoke to a group of Mothers of Preschoolers in Tracy about The Physical Perspective. Most of us know that exercise is helpful to prevent weight gain, promote weight loss, or maintain our weight, but that doesn't always do the trick. <span style="font-size: 8px;">1 </span><br />
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<strong>Some of us are motivated by money.</strong> The Center for Disease Control says that exercise can significantly lower your annual direct medical costs. Getting people to exercise could cut yearly medical costs in the United States by more than $70 billion dollars. <span style="font-size: 8px;">2 </span>What can it save you? </div>
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<strong>Some of us are motivated by health</strong>. Exercise reduces your risk of cardiovascular disease, type 2 diabetes, and some cancers. <span style="font-size: 8px;">1, 2 </span>It also reduces stress, depression and anxiety. <span style="font-size: 8px;">3 </span>Enhancing mental performance and work productivity (whether your "work" is in your home or outside your home) are other benefits. Exercise can even improve your skin. </div>
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<strong>But some of us are motivated by sex.</strong> The benefit the mothers' giggled about is that 20 minutes of exercise a day improves your sex life. <span style="font-size: 8px;">3 </span>Who knew that the Harvard School of Public Health studies such things? It's true. Just 20 minutes/day Improves sexual response in women, leaves you feeling energized, and helps you feel more desirable. Dr. David Katz from Yale adds, "Working out with your partner not only will allow you to spend time together, but it will trigger adrenaline & other feel-good hormones to get you in the mood." <span style="font-size: 8px;">3 </span></div>
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I shared with the ladies, "If your husband finds out about this, chances are he'll ensure you get exercise time in!" Maybe that will work...rain or not! </div>
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2. <i>The Benefits of Physical Activity</i>, Harvard School of Public Health, <i>www.hsph.harvard.edu › The Nutrition Source. Accessed 10/25/2013. </i><br />
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Fritzemeiers Footnoteshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17366491733039190755noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4782522266926496145.post-88611904490803220622014-02-28T08:00:00.000-08:002014-04-23T10:47:03.291-07:00Our Heart Attitude<div style="text-align: center;">
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<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjdSlyVmjzDIWCyIk-gqUOKEcAGbpPQjSsWYJPYJlIejfplRN8yxuONjuVppbxP9m_yZn3I1-RdCFu-0RiNnhMLWhTZBQFjT-9SOud1qAc78lDoTyelFq28oFEj5Eua-VwVXshE8SQf-ag/s1600/%5Bwww.stockpholio.com%5D-4266283238_3+Heart+seyed+mosafa+zamani.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img alt="" border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjdSlyVmjzDIWCyIk-gqUOKEcAGbpPQjSsWYJPYJlIejfplRN8yxuONjuVppbxP9m_yZn3I1-RdCFu-0RiNnhMLWhTZBQFjT-9SOud1qAc78lDoTyelFq28oFEj5Eua-VwVXshE8SQf-ag/s1600/%5Bwww.stockpholio.com%5D-4266283238_3+Heart+seyed+mosafa+zamani.jpg" title="Heart by Seyed Masafa Zamani" /></a><span style="font-family: Calibri;">Perhaps you've grumbled about a co-worker, "She always
has such a bad attitude. I can't stand being around her." Maybe you've
been told, "You have a bad attitude," or said to your teen,
"When you change your attitude, I'll talk to you." Last week I spoke
to a group of moms. One segment of the talk was checking our heart attitude. I
adapted these questions from a book, <i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;"><span style="line-height: 115%;">Checklist for Life for Moms.</span></i><sup><span style="font-size: small; line-height: 115%;">1</span></sup></span></div>
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<li><span style="font-family: Symbol; font-size: 12pt; mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;"><span style="font-size-adjust: none; font-stretch: normal; font: 7pt/normal "Times New Roman";"> </span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span style="font-size: 12pt; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-bidi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">Do you recognize that your attitudes can have far-reaching effects on your family?<o:p></o:p></span></span></li>
<li><span style="font-size: 12pt; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-bidi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">Do you acknowledge that a negative attitude can easily develop into a critical way of life?<o:p></o:p></span></span></li>
<li><span style="font-size: 12pt; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-bidi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">Do you accept that you can choose your attitude toward a particular person or situation? <o:p></o:p></span></span></li>
<li><span style="font-size: 12pt; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-bidi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">Do you consider that your thoughts & attitudes should reflect those of Christ?<o:p></o:p></span></span></li>
<li><span style="font-size: 12pt; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-bidi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">Do you trust God to show you the positive qualities in those who usually engender negative feelings?<o:p></o:p></span></span></li>
<li><span style="font-size: 12pt; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-bidi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">Do you appreciate the common ground that can be found in negative or difficult family members? <o:p></o:p></span></span></li>
</ul>
<span style="font-size: 12pt; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-bidi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;"><o:p><span style="font-family: Calibri;"></span></o:p></span><br />
<div class="MsoListParagraphCxSpMiddle" style="line-height: normal; margin: 0in 0in 0pt 1in; mso-add-space: auto; text-indent: -1in;">
<span style="font-size: 12pt; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-bidi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">So how
do you check your own attitude? How is your attitude critical to your daily
life?</span></span><br />
<span style="font-family: Calibri;"><i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;"><span style="font-size: 12pt; line-height: 115%; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">Checklist for Life for Moms</span></i><span style="font-size: 12pt; line-height: 115%; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">, Thomas
Nelson, 2005. </span></span><br />
<span style="font-family: Calibri;"><span style="font-size: 12pt; line-height: 115%; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">Image from: <a href="http://www.stockpholio.com/">www.stockpholio.com</a> Heart by Seyed Mosafa Zamani.<o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
Fritzemeiers Footnoteshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17366491733039190755noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4782522266926496145.post-40925517768271850502014-02-25T08:00:00.000-08:002014-04-23T10:46:24.977-07:00"Do you work?"<div style="text-align: center;">
<span style="font-family: Calibri;">Dr. Marian C. Fritzemeier, Ed.D. © 2014<br />
<span style="font-family: Times New Roman;">
</span></span><span style="font-family: Calibri;">Author, Educator, Speaker</span></div>
<span style="font-family: Calibri;"></span><br />
<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEg46cnYvoMGXN7QNv_j8b3Xs7S-Pn5Wu1Uag3XF_Mlod0FpoDyF-vkqY-BIUQQbSs2PH46Xl56nYZ6mavkxbex6ZON8Tk15AoDclP6J70vzPHtMuWbbU2GD08lEXJ2Q3_EkLCPVk4GJPDc/s1600/question-mark-1409010-s.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img alt="" border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEg46cnYvoMGXN7QNv_j8b3Xs7S-Pn5Wu1Uag3XF_Mlod0FpoDyF-vkqY-BIUQQbSs2PH46Xl56nYZ6mavkxbex6ZON8Tk15AoDclP6J70vzPHtMuWbbU2GD08lEXJ2Q3_EkLCPVk4GJPDc/s1600/question-mark-1409010-s.jpg" height="200" title="question-mark" width="200" /></a><span style="font-family: Calibri;">Ever been at a social gathering and someone inquires,
"Do you work?" </span><br />
<br />
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<span style="font-family: Calibri;">My gut reaction is, <i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;">Of
course I work. Doesn't every mom work?</i> But I also know the inquirer really
wants to know if I hold an important job that requires a college education and offers
social status. Another variation is, "Where do you work?" In other
words, do you work for a prestigious company and make six figures?</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Calibri;">Medical forms also request work information. When I was a
young mother I'd respond, "I don't work." But I didn't like how it
sounded. It felt like I was less than someone else, less important than a
mother who holds a paying job outside the home. My husband and I made the
choice for me to be the primary caretaker of our children. So why was I feeling
so down when I was doing the most important job at that time?</span></div>
<span style="font-family: Calibri;">When our girls entered school, I finally arrived at a
creative answer that I felt proud to share. "I'm the Vice-President of the
Fritzemeier Foundation." When someone requests my work phone, I simply repeat
my home number. <span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span></span><br />
<br />
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 10pt;">
<span style="font-family: Calibri;">One day at medical appointment, the doctor inquired,
"What's the Fritzemeier Foundation? <span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>It sounds important." </span></div>
<span style="font-family: Calibri;">"You're right. I'm impacting the entire next generation
by training young people to live independently, develop job proficiency, demonstrate
leadership skills, participate in civic responsibilities, and become life-long
learners."</span><br />
<br />
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 10pt;">
<span style="font-family: Calibri;">"Sound interesting," he nods.</span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 10pt;">
<span style="font-family: Calibri;">"It's pretty remarkable. No two days are ever the same.
It keeps me on my toes." </span></div>
<span style="font-family: Calibri;">Back to work.</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Calibri;"></span><br />
<span style="font-family: Calibri;"><span style="font-size: 12pt; line-height: 115%; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri;">Image from: </span><span style="font-size: 12pt; line-height: 115%;">Stock.XCHNG <u><span style="color: #1f497d; mso-themecolor: text2;">www.sxc.hu/</span></u>
question-mark-1409010-s. Accessed 4/16/2014.</span></span>Fritzemeiers Footnoteshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17366491733039190755noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4782522266926496145.post-64874318028754473622014-02-20T18:12:00.000-08:002014-04-23T10:45:29.301-07:00What's Restorative Justice anyways?<div align="center" class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: center;">
<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Dr. Marian C. Fritzemeier, Ed.D. © 2014</span><br />
<div>
<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">
Author, Speaker, Educator</span></div>
</div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: left;">
<span style="line-height: 115%;"></span><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"> </span></div>
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<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjFN_b_vT-z8x7Plh3HxS6fq63t0rzwLKH7afA7DhAfOLCvwOvAR-hY6YAGH_tUE87atG8b98JCvPk0-RJHUJWbnVcHz-k35m96-oj9oLCJ5hYHy7NPGxGkOq2fUP_8g-5UHTlLgwZQXyo/s1600/justice-srb-1-1040136-m.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img alt="" border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjFN_b_vT-z8x7Plh3HxS6fq63t0rzwLKH7afA7DhAfOLCvwOvAR-hY6YAGH_tUE87atG8b98JCvPk0-RJHUJWbnVcHz-k35m96-oj9oLCJ5hYHy7NPGxGkOq2fUP_8g-5UHTlLgwZQXyo/s1600/justice-srb-1-1040136-m.jpg" height="150" title="justice-SRB-1" width="200" /></a><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; line-height: 115%;">As I taught
three-three hour sessions to educators in a local school district, many of you
wondered, what is she talking about? I'm not familiar with this thought. </span></div>
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<span style="line-height: 115%;"><o:p></o:p></span><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"> </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><span style="line-height: 115%;"><strong>Definition & Goals.</strong> Howard Zehr describes the concept as,
"Restorative justice is a process to involve, to the extent possible,
those who have a stake in a specific offense and to collectively identify and
address harms, needs, and obligations, in order to heal and put things as right
as possible." <span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span><span style="font-size: small;"><sup>1,</sup> <sup>p.
37</sup> The three </span></span>main goals of Restorative Justice include holding the
offender accountable for his/her actions, increasing community safety for
everyone, and building competency skills for those involved. <sup><span style="font-size: small;">2, p. 6<o:p></o:p></span></sup></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><strong>My interest?</strong> Since this isn't a topic I
typically teach and write about, how did I get interested in restorative
justice? My dissertation topic was how district attorneys decide to try a
juvenile offender as an adult or as a juvenile. Throughout my research, I
consistently read about how restorative justice holds offenders accountable for
their actions and make things as right as possible.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; mso-tab-count: 1;"> </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><strong>Results.</strong> When restorative justice is
used with first time offenders, they often don't become repeat offenders. They
realize that what they did caused harm to others and/or harm to property. Say
for example, a young person is found doing graffiti. This adolescent would be
responsible for paying for the paint and spending so many hours painting over
graffiti in the community where he or she lives.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Painting graffiti often loses its appeal when
there are natural consequences. That's what I love about restorative justice.
It teaches consequences and how others have been hurt by the offender's
actions. The goal is to "make things right."<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; mso-tab-count: 1;"> </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><strong>Cheating Students.</strong> As a college professor, I used
restorative justice with my students who chose cheating. Because my students
were future teachers, and California has a Code of Ethics for Educators,
students write a Code of Ethics for themselves. When I discover they have
cheated, we examine their code of ethics. Does cheating fit their code of
ethics? No, it does not. The students receive a zero on the assignment or exam,
but it goes beyond that. I want them to quit cheating. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; mso-tab-count: 1;"> </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><strong>Holding Students Accountable</strong>. So I ask students if they'd be
willing to notify all their teachers the following semester that they were involved
in a cheating incident. They want to change their behavior and become ethical
educators. Guess what happens when a student confesses to cheating? The
professor watches them like a hawk. By the end of the semester, "cheating
students" usually change their ways. This is way better than just getting
a zero. Natural consequences and restoring correct behavior. A win-win for all
involved.<span style="line-height: 115%;"><o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"></span><br /></div>
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<span style="font-size: 9pt; line-height: 115%;"><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Sources:</span></span></div>
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<ol>
<li><span style="font-size: x-small;"><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;"><span style="line-height: 115%;">The Little Book of Restorative Justice, </span></i><span style="line-height: 115%;">Howard<i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;"> </i>Zehr, Good Books, 2002.</span></span></span></li>
<li><span style="font-size: x-small;"><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;"><span style="line-height: 115%;">Implementing Restorative Justice</span></i><span style="line-height: 115%;">, Jessica Ashley, & Kimberly Burke, State of Illinois.</span></span></span></li>
<li><span style="font-size: x-small;"><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><span style="line-height: 115%; mso-bidi-font-family: Calibri; mso-bidi-theme-font: minor-latin;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman"; font-size-adjust: none; font-stretch: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal;">
</span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span style="line-height: 115%; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri;">Image from: </span><span style="font-size: 9pt; line-height: 115%;">Stock.XCHNG <u><span style="color: #1f497d; mso-themecolor: text2;">www.sxc.hu/</span></u> justice-SRB-1-1040136-m.
Accessed 4/17/2014.<o:p></o:p></span></span></span></li>
</ol>
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Fritzemeiers Footnoteshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17366491733039190755noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4782522266926496145.post-92078567180767036972014-01-13T20:15:00.000-08:002014-04-23T10:44:46.563-07:00School Age Friendship Groups: Accepted and Rejected Children <div align="center" class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; text-align: center;">
<span style="font-family: Calibri; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 150%; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">Dr. Marian C. Fritzemeier, Ed.D.
© 2014</span></div>
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Speaker, Educator</span><span style="color: black; font-family: Calibri; font-size: 12pt; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-themecolor: text1;"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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"accepted" children friendship group.</span><sup>1</sup><span style="font-size: 12pt;"> These children have
at least one friend who protects them from experiencing long, lonely days in
school. </span></span><br />
<span style="color: black; font-family: Calibri; font-size: 12pt; font-weight: normal; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-themecolor: text1;"><span style="font-size: 12pt;"></span></span><br />
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group; they may have no friends at all. Psychologists are concerned about this
bottom 20% on the social ladder. In this blog, we'll look at the three sub-groups,
typical friendships characteristics of each, and how parents can help these
struggling children with friendships.</span></span><br />
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<span style="color: black; font-family: Calibri; font-size: 12pt; font-weight: normal; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-themecolor: text1;"><strong>Neglected Children.</strong> The first sub-group is the
"neglected" children who tend to be very shy, comprising five percent
of children.<sup>1</sup> Although the group sub-title sounds negative, these
children are very close to their families and typically good students. They
simply don't attract much attention from peers. Parents mainly need to accept
their child's social style which was explained in my last blog, <i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;">Parents Can Help with School Age Child's
Friendships</i>. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: black; font-family: Calibri; font-size: 12pt; font-weight: normal; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-themecolor: text1;"><br /></span><span style="font-family: Calibri; font-size: 12pt; font-weight: normal; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;"><strong>Controversial Children.</strong> The second sub-group, "<span style="color: black; mso-themecolor: text1;">controversial" children, also five percent, possess
some traits peers like, but they also have annoying habits, such as: being a
poor sport or poor hygiene.<sup>1</sup> These children need to be coached to
give up annoying habits. Some parents think that by addressing these issues
their children's self-esteem will suffer, but these children are already
suffering silently. If children knew how to change their behavior, they already
would have. </span></span><br />
<span style="font-family: Calibri; font-size: 12pt; font-weight: normal; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;"><span style="color: black; mso-themecolor: text1;"></span></span><br />
<span style="font-family: Calibri; font-size: 12pt; font-weight: normal; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;"><span style="color: black; mso-themecolor: text1;"><strong>Adult Guidance.</strong> They need adult guidance and specific strategies for improving
these habits. It can begin with a simple observation question. "Today when
you were shooting hoops, did you notice that your friend was angry when you
kept hogging the ball? What can you do differently next time you shoot
hoops?" When parents gradually and consistently work with children on
specific annoying behaviors, most children will improve over time. <o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Calibri; font-size: 12pt; font-weight: normal; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;"><span style="color: black; mso-themecolor: text1;"><br /></span></span><span style="color: black; font-family: Calibri; font-size: 12pt; font-weight: normal; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-themecolor: text1;"><strong>Rejected Children.</strong> The last sub-group, the
"rejected" children contain 10% of children.<sup>1</sup> These children
lack important social skills in a wide variety of areas and may not cooperate
or know how to respond in certain situations.<sup>2</sup> "Rejected
children are either overly aggressive from the start and react to being
rejected with more aggression, or they become depressed and withdrawn." <sup>4
</sup></span><br />
<span style="color: black; font-family: Calibri; font-size: 12pt; font-weight: normal; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-themecolor: text1;"></span><br />
<span style="color: black; font-family: Calibri; font-size: 12pt; font-weight: normal; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-themecolor: text1;"><strong>Missing Skills.</strong> Whereas the "controversial" children need some help on certain
social issues, these children must be taught missing skills.<sup>2</sup> If
not, this child will become a rejected adult. Maybe you know someone like this.
They don't pick up on social cues and are observed as "misfits" at
work and in social settings. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: black; font-family: Calibri; font-size: 12pt; font-weight: normal; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-themecolor: text1;"><span style="mso-tab-count: 1;"><strong></strong></span></span><br />
<span style="color: black; font-family: Calibri; font-size: 12pt; font-weight: normal; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-themecolor: text1;"><span style="mso-tab-count: 1;"><strong>Life Skills.</strong> </span>Now is the time for parents and
schools to help these children develop the all important life skill of making
friends. School administrators are a great resource to find out about arranging
friendship groups that help rejected children make friends. "Just 6 to 8
meetings of such a group can have a significant positive impact. Administrators
should also implement anti-bullying policies and train teachers to create a
socially safe environment in the classroom."<sup>1</sup> <o:p></o:p></span></div>
<div align="left" class="MsoTitle" style="text-align: left;">
<span style="color: black; font-family: Calibri; font-size: 12pt; font-weight: normal; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-themecolor: text1;">Rejected,
angry children may need counseling. <o:p></o:p></span><br />
<span style="color: black; font-family: Calibri; font-size: 12pt; font-weight: normal; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-themecolor: text1;"><br /></span><span style="color: black; font-family: Calibri; font-size: 12pt; font-weight: normal; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-themecolor: text1;"><strong>Help Finding Friendships.</strong> Both "rejected" and
"controversial" children need help finding friendships in other
venues beyond the school day. Spending time with neighbor kids or cousins is
one way to begin. Children are in close proximity for observing
interactions combined with "coaching" later. Joining a youth group,
like Boy Scouts, Girls Scouts, or 4-H are other possibilities. Community
service projects are great ways for children to learn social skills while
helping others. </span><br />
<span style="color: black; font-family: Calibri; font-size: 12pt; font-weight: normal; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-themecolor: text1;"></span><br />
<span style="color: black; font-family: Calibri; font-size: 12pt; font-weight: normal; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-themecolor: text1;"><strong>Extra Guidance.</strong> When your children are in the last two sub-groups, they will
need extra guidance, direction and support. Overtime, your children will
benefit from better friendships. Remember, "It only takes one real friend
to alleviate the worse aspect of loneliness."<sup>1</sup> <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: black; font-family: Calibri; font-size: 12pt; font-weight: normal; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-themecolor: text1;">Sources:<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: black; font-family: Calibri; font-size: 12pt; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-themecolor: text1;">1. </span><i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;"><span style="color: black; font-family: Calibri; font-size: 12pt; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial; mso-font-kerning: 18.0pt; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-themecolor: text1;">Let's Be Friends: </span></i><i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;"><span style="color: black; font-family: Calibri; font-size: 12pt; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-themecolor: text1;">Help your child's friendships flourish — even in the face
of difficulty</span></i><span style="color: black; font-family: Calibri; font-size: 12pt; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-themecolor: text1;">. </span><span style="color: black; font-family: Calibri; font-size: 12pt; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-themecolor: text1;">Scholastic Parent, </span><cite><span style="color: black; font-family: Calibri; font-size: 12pt; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-themecolor: text1;">www.scholastic.com/parents/resources/article/st<span style="mso-bidi-font-weight: bold;">ages</span>.../lets-be-<span style="mso-bidi-font-weight: bold;">friends. </span></span></cite><span style="color: black; font-family: Calibri; font-size: 12pt; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-themecolor: text1;">Accessed
10/17/2013.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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Fritzemeiers Footnoteshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17366491733039190755noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4782522266926496145.post-63196370524497075442014-01-04T12:00:00.000-08:002014-04-23T10:39:50.219-07:00Friendship Books for School Age Children<span style="color: black; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial; mso-bidi-font-weight: bold; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-font-kerning: 18.0pt; mso-themecolor: text1;"></span><br />
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Marian Fritzemeier, Ed.D. <span style="font-family: Calibri;">© 2013</span></span></div>
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Friendship: Simple Strategies to Help Your Child Make Friends, </span></i><a href="http://www.amazon.com/Natalie-Madorsky-Elman/e/B001IGNN7W/ref=ntt_athr_dp_pel_1"><span style="color: black; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-themecolor: text1;">Natalie Madorsky Elman</span></a><span style="color: black; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-themecolor: text1;"> & </span><a href="http://www.amazon.com/s/ref=ntt_athr_dp_sr_2?ie=UTF8&field-author=Eileen+Kennedy-Moore+%28Author%29&search-alias=books&text=Eileen+Kennedy-Moore+%28Author%29&sort=relevancerank"><span style="color: black; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-themecolor: text1;">Eileen Kennedy-Moore, </span></a><span style="color: black; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-themecolor: text1;"><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Q-Mart, 2003.<o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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Be Friends: A Workbook to Help Kids Learn Social Skills and Make Great Friends</span></i></a><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><span style="color: black; font-weight: normal; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-themecolor: text1;">, <span class="ptbrand5">Lawrence
Shapiro Ph.D.,</span> </span><span style="color: black; font-weight: normal; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-bidi-font-weight: bold; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-themecolor: text1;">Instant Help
Books</span><span class="bindingandrelease"><span style="color: black; font-weight: normal; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-themecolor: text1;">,
Raincoast Books, 2008</span></span><span style="color: black; font-weight: normal; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-bidi-font-weight: bold; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-themecolor: text1;">.
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& </span><a href="http://www.amazon.com/s/ref=ntt_athr_dp_sr_2?ie=UTF8&field-author=Josie+Santomauro&search-alias=books&text=Josie+Santomauro&sort=relevancerank"><span style="color: black; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; line-height: 115%; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-themecolor: text1;">Josie Santomauro</span></a><span style="color: black; line-height: 115%; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-themecolor: text1;"><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">, Autism Asperger
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Fritzemeiers Footnoteshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17366491733039190755noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4782522266926496145.post-54163859787529608372014-01-01T07:30:00.000-08:002014-04-23T10:37:54.221-07:00Parents Can Help with School Age Child's Friendships<div class="MsoTitle" style="line-height: 150%; text-align: center;">
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; line-height: 150%;">Dr. Marian C. Fritzemeier, Ed.D. © 2014</span></div>
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<span style="font-weight: normal; line-height: 150%; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;"><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Author, Speaker, Educator<i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;"><span style="color: black; mso-themecolor: text1;"><o:p></o:p></span></i></span></span></div>
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<span style="clear: right; float: right; line-height: 115%; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em; text-align: left; text-indent: 0.5in;"><img alt="" src="http://mrg.bz/J9WQLY" height="133" title="Alex_Mau Morgue Files" width="200" /></span><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><span style="line-height: 115%; text-align: left; text-indent: 0.5in;">What kind of friends do
you want for your school age child? That simple question is complex for many
families. The topic brings up memories of parent's school friendships and
feelings about their children's friendships. </span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><span style="line-height: 115%; text-align: left; text-indent: 0.5in;"><strong>Pride or Problems?</strong> If the child is well-liked,
parents burst with pride. If their child is unpopular, they cringe and hope no
one notices, especially their child. But the child does know if he or she is
popular or not. </span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><span style="line-height: 115%; text-align: left; text-indent: 0.5in;"><strong>Benefits.</strong> Chi</span></span><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><span style="line-height: 115%; text-align: left; text-indent: 0.5in;">ldren with friendships have a greater sense of well-being, a
better self-esteem, have more fun at school, and have fewer problems as adults.</span><span style="font-size: small;"><sup style="font-family: Calibri; line-height: 115%; text-align: left; text-indent: 0.5in;">1</sup><span style="line-height: 115%; text-align: left; text-indent: 0.5in;">
In this blog we'll look at some simple ways parent's can help their school age
children develop healthy friendships as we being the new year.</span></span></span></div>
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<span style="color: black; font-weight: normal; line-height: 115%; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-themecolor: text1;"><strong>Your Child's Social Style.</strong> Developing a loving,
accepting, and respectful relationship with your school age child provides the
foundation for helping your child build friendships.<span style="font-size: small;"><sup>2</sup> This means
respecting your child's social style.<sup>1 </sup>Some children make many
friends easily while others make friends more slowly and may only need a few
good friends. Some are social butterflies while others are more quiet and
reserved. Avoid pressuring your child to make friends at your pace and style.</span></span></span><br />
<br />
<span style="font-family: Arial;"><strong>C</strong><span style="color: black; font-weight: normal; line-height: 115%; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-themecolor: text1;"><span style="font-size: small;"><strong>hild's Temperament.</strong> Consider
your child's God-given temperament, level of activity, and stress.<sup>3 </sup>Some
children need quiet time, a chance to slow down, be alone, or even relax rather
than spending all their free time with friends. Other children like being on
the go with friends and activities. <o:p></o:p></span></span></span></div>
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<span style="color: black; font-weight: normal; line-height: 115%; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-themecolor: text1;"><br /></span><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">
<span style="color: black; font-weight: normal; line-height: 115%; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-themecolor: text1;"><strong>Eyes are Watching.</strong> Remember that your child
is always observing you. Model appropriate social behaviors, empathy with
others, and demonstrate reciprocity. <span style="font-size: small;"><sup>1,</sup> <sup>4 </sup>Reciprocity for
school age children means what they do for each other.<sup>1</sup> Friendship
is a two-way relationship. Keep in mind a New Testament Bible verse, "</span></span><span class="text"><span style="font-weight: normal; line-height: 115%; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">Be kind to one another, tender-hearted, forgiving each other, just as
God in Christ also has forgiven you."<span style="font-size: small;"><sup>5 </sup></span></span></span></span><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><span class="text"><span style="font-weight: normal; line-height: 115%; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;"><span style="font-size: small;"><br /><br /><strong>Variety of Friendships</strong>. Demonstrate<sup> </sup>kindness
by keeping a wide variety of friendships, such as with the elderly, shut-ins,
the homeless, and those living in poverty. <span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Your children will learn </span></span></span><span style="font-weight: normal; line-height: 115%; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">that a wide
variety of friendships are valuable. <o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="color: black; font-weight: normal; line-height: 115%; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-themecolor: text1;"><strong>Group Status.</strong> It is also helpful for parents to know their child's friends
and where their child stands in the group.<span style="font-size: small;"><sup>4</sup> "Your child doesn't
need you to manage his social life, but he does need you to provide a steady,
supportive environment for his social experimentation."<sup>4</sup> If
your child needs help in making better friendships, provide direction and
support. For example, maybe your child needs to learn to take turns or ask
others to join in play. "...research shows that children who were more
well adjusted socially had parents who were more involved in their children's
social activities."<sup>1</sup><o:p></o:p></span></span></span></div>
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<span style="color: black; font-weight: normal; line-height: 115%; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-themecolor: text1;"><br /></span><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">
<span style="color: black; font-weight: normal; line-height: 115%; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-themecolor: text1;"><strong>Don't Go "Back to School."</strong> And lastly, in helping
your child make friends, avoid going back to school yourself. <span style="font-size: small;"><sup>4 </sup>This
may sound like, "When I was your age, I..." or stories of regret.
Every adult has painful memories of childhood friendships.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Friendship challenges are a natural part of
our children's social development,</span></span></span><br />
<br />
<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><span style="color: black; font-weight: normal; line-height: 115%; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-themecolor: text1;"><span style="font-size: small;"><strong>Separate Self From Child.</strong> Try
and separate your feelings and needs from your child's.<sup> </sup>"Children
can experience undue anxiety when parents pressure them to behave in ways that
meet parents' needs more than their own."<sup> 3 </sup>While making
friends is not always a smooth road, these ideas for helping your school age
child make friends can make the road less bumpy. <o:p></o:p></span></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"></span><br /></div>
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<span style="color: black; font-weight: normal; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-themecolor: text1;"><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: x-small;">Sources:<o:p></o:p></span></span></span></div>
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<span style="color: black; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: x-small; line-height: 115%; mso-themecolor: text1;">1. <i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;">Do Kids Need
Friends?</i> </span><a href="http://www.aboutourkids.org/about_us/staff/clinical_faculty/anita_gurian"><span style="color: black; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: x-small; line-height: 115%; mso-themecolor: text1; text-decoration: none; text-underline: none;">Anita Gurian, Ph.D</span></a><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: x-small;">d<span style="color: black; line-height: 115%; mso-themecolor: text1;"> and
Alice Pope, Ph.D., NYU Child Study Center, </span><cite><span style="color: black; line-height: 115%; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-themecolor: text1;">www.education.com › ... › </span></cite></span></span><a href="http://www.education.com/topic/emotional-social-development/"><cite><span style="color: black; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: x-small; line-height: 115%; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-themecolor: text1; text-decoration: none; text-underline: none;">Social
Emotional Development</span></cite></a><cite><span style="color: black; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: x-small; line-height: 115%; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-themecolor: text1;"> › </span></cite><a href="http://www.education.com/topic/social-development-friendship/"><cite><span style="color: black; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: x-small; line-height: 115%; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-themecolor: text1; text-decoration: none; text-underline: none;">Friendships</span></cite></a><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: x-small;"><span style="color: black; line-height: 115%; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial; mso-themecolor: text1;">. Updated <span class="f3"><span style="color: black; mso-themecolor: text1;">July 9, 2010.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span></span></span></span><span style="color: black; line-height: 115%; mso-themecolor: text1;">Accessed
10/17/2013.</span><span style="color: black; line-height: 115%; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial; mso-themecolor: text1;"><o:p></o:p></span></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: x-small;"><span style="color: black; line-height: 115%; mso-themecolor: text1;">2. <i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;">The Importance
of Friendship for School-Age Children</i>, Millie Ferrer-Chancy & Anne Fugate,
University of Florida IFAS Extension, ©2002. Reviewed 2007. </span><span style="color: black; line-height: 115%; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial; mso-bidi-font-style: italic; mso-themecolor: text1;">edis.ifas.ufl.edu/fy54<i>.</i></span><span style="color: black; line-height: 115%; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial; mso-themecolor: text1;"> </span><span style="color: black; line-height: 115%; mso-themecolor: text1;">Accessed 10/17/2013.</span><span style="color: black; line-height: 115%; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial; mso-themecolor: text1;"><o:p></o:p></span></span></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="background: white; line-height: 12pt; mso-margin-bottom-alt: auto; mso-margin-top-alt: auto;">
<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: x-small;"><cite><span style="color: black; font-style: normal; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial; mso-bidi-font-style: italic; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-themecolor: text1;">3.</span></cite><cite><span style="color: black; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-themecolor: text1;"> Friendships:
Fostering Children's Friendship in School Age Children</span></cite><cite><span style="color: black; font-style: normal; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial; mso-bidi-font-style: italic; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-themecolor: text1;">,
www.families-first.org/.../tips.cfm?...<span style="mso-bidi-font-weight: bold;">Friendships</span>...Fostering%20<span style="mso-bidi-font-weight: bold;">Children'</span>... Accessed 10/17/2013.</span></cite><span style="color: black; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial; mso-bidi-font-style: italic; mso-themecolor: text1;"><o:p></o:p></span></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: x-small;"><span style="color: black; line-height: 115%; mso-themecolor: text1;">4. </span><i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;"><span style="color: black; line-height: 115%; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial; mso-font-kerning: 18.0pt; mso-themecolor: text1;">Let's Be Friends: </span></i><i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;"><span style="color: black; line-height: 115%; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial; mso-themecolor: text1;">Help your child's friendships flourish — even in the face
of difficulty</span></i><span style="color: black; line-height: 115%; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial; mso-themecolor: text1;">. </span><span style="color: black; line-height: 115%; mso-themecolor: text1;">Scholastic
Parent, </span><cite><span style="color: black; line-height: 115%; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-themecolor: text1;">www.scholastic.com/parents/resources/article/st<span style="mso-bidi-font-weight: bold;">ages</span>.../lets-be-<span style="mso-bidi-font-weight: bold;">friends</span></span></cite><cite><span style="color: black; font-style: normal; line-height: 115%; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial; mso-bidi-font-style: italic; mso-bidi-font-weight: bold; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-themecolor: text1;">.</span></cite><cite><span style="color: black; line-height: 115%; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial; mso-bidi-font-weight: bold; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-themecolor: text1;"> </span></cite><span style="color: black; line-height: 115%; mso-themecolor: text1;">Accessed
10/17/2013.</span><span style="color: black; line-height: 115%; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial; mso-font-kerning: 18.0pt; mso-themecolor: text1;"><o:p></o:p></span></span></span></div>
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<span style="mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;"><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: x-small;">5. Ephesians 4:32. <span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>New American
Standard Bible (NASB). <o:p></o:p></span></span></span></div>
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Fritzemeiers Footnoteshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17366491733039190755noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4782522266926496145.post-41685822074751573632013-12-27T07:30:00.000-08:002014-04-23T10:36:47.110-07:00Now, How About Some Positive Peer Pressure?<div align="center" class="MsoNormal" style="margin-left: 1in; tab-stops: center .5in; text-align: center; text-indent: -1in;">
<span style="line-height: 150%; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;"><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Dr. Marian C. Fritzemeier, Ed.D.
© 2013<b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;"><i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;"><o:p></o:p></i></b></span></span></div>
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<span style="line-height: 150%; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;"><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Author, Speaker, Educator<o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjPwCkl5Tyu3u3BNJwm91fVLbf9hbzNJkSW1kPG6cATyp1jV1KnEz-MxZQnFZm0qyHiVc60-7XzOfCMhX7lPCclBZowrbxZGy74ibMmTw18Zhr971RR_DXWdcXAdYWsPjmcn9QHJbwGjwM/s1600/learning-the-rules-909359-s.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img alt="" border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjPwCkl5Tyu3u3BNJwm91fVLbf9hbzNJkSW1kPG6cATyp1jV1KnEz-MxZQnFZm0qyHiVc60-7XzOfCMhX7lPCclBZowrbxZGy74ibMmTw18Zhr971RR_DXWdcXAdYWsPjmcn9QHJbwGjwM/s1600/learning-the-rules-909359-s.jpg" height="200" title="learning the rules" width="172" /></a><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Although the last five blogs highlighted parenting tips to
help their school age children resist negative peer pressure, it is essential
to remember that peer pressure isn't always negative. Positive peer pressure assists
school age children with reinforcing skills. An important example is
demonstrating appropriate social behaviors. You may hound your kids about their
manner with little results, but when their friends make comments, they often
listen. </span><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><strong></strong></span><br />
<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><strong></strong></span><br />
<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><strong>"That's gross." </strong>Take for example, body functions, like inappropriate belching.
"That's gross," friends may groan. Or maybe your daughter doesn't like
washing her hair. A friend may comment, "You're not going to the birthday
party with your hair like that." Of course not, and the hair is washed,
styled and off they go.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><strong>Changing.</strong> Peers can also motivate positive personal changes.<span style="font-size: small;"><sup>1</sup>
Maybe your daughter is struggling with math. Her friend offers to lend her a
hand. Or possibly your son wants to play a sport but hasn't joined a team
before. A friend may join the team with him. Perhaps your daughter is
organizationally challenged. A peer can help arrange her school binder.<o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><strong>Belonging.</strong> Peers can rally round your child to maintain
self-confidence and a sense of belonging and meaning.<span style="font-size: small;"><sup>1 </sup>Kids usually
choose friends who are similar to them. This helps children feel like they <span style="mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">belong to something beyond their families.
Having good friends with similar values provides fun times together and helps children
feel more confident.</span> <o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; mso-tab-count: 1;"> </span><br />
<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><strong>Volunteering.</strong> Positive peer pressure can also influence
peers to volunteer, work towards becoming more "green," staying away
from drugs and alcohol, and thriving in academics and goals.<span style="font-size: small;"><sup>1</sup> Even
amongst school age children, natural leaders will guide peers to make a
difference. </span></span><br />
<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"></span><br />
<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><strong>Opportunities.</strong> Check to see which non-profit organizations allow school age
volunteers, such as food banks, homeless shelters, or animal rescue
organizations or shelters. Some kids help save our environment. Other children
challenge peers to stay away from drugs and alcohol or do well in school. When
parents hear about negative peer pressure, keep in mind that peer pressure can
also become a very beneficial asset for you and your child.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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